- Consider taking up activities that will give you a glimpse of what’s ahead: dusting off an old hobby, picking up a new one, joining a club, or taking day trips.
- Practice self-compassion: Give yourself time and permission to not try to do everything perfectly.
- As you learn how to function in this new stage, take care of yourself and focus on what you need to do to get through a process.
- Surround yourself with supportive family and friends, people who love you and will boost your overall well-being.
- Practice mindfulness. The divorce process can seem like a never-ending roller coaster of emotions. To help maintain a sense of calm and centeredness in the storm, consider mindfulness exercises. These techniques can be as simple as observing your breathing, or as advanced as committing to a daily meditation practice.
- Lean into healthy habits like getting adequate sleep, exercising regularly, and focusing on nutritious foods to keep your body and mind functioning well.
- Know yourself and be realistic about how you react to stress: Do you run away? Seek advice from friends? Charge head on? Avoid negative coping mechanisms. The most important thing you can do for yourself during your divorce is to be clear-headed and fully informed in making all necessary decisions.
- Instead of judging yourself for past emotions, focus instead on building a new, constructive relationship with your ex-spouse. That can be particularly important if you have children to co-parent, but even if you don’t, you may need to continue to tie up loose ends together, so civility is key. Communication is as important as ever in this critical stage.
- Don’t hesitate to seek out the emotional support you need. Many people lose their best friend as well as their spouse during divorce. Whether it’s a therapist or some other trusted individual, it's important to have someone you can talk to about your feelings and support you through the process. Even confiding in a trusted friend or family member can help you find connection, sympathy, and understanding.
Self-care during divorce
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